One of my husband’s many insightful sayings is: “Don’t tell people how to live, but live in such a way that inspires them to ask questions.”
On one of our trips, I had the opportunity to experience how true this statement really is.
We had an important trip to Austria, and on the way, we stopped in Munich to eat at a restaurant. The place was packed, and the waitress said the only available space for us was at a table where a young man in his twenties was sitting alone. After we asked if he minded us joining him and he happily agreed, we sat down across from each other and waited for the menu.
Meanwhile, the young man couldn’t stop looking at us, and then he suddenly asked:
“Excuse me for interrupting, but what’s your secret? Honestly, I’ve never seen a couple with such a spark of love in their eyes…”
But before we could say anything, he started talking about his generation, which no longer believes in marriage.
“My parents’ generation either divorces, cheats, or simply continues to live under the same roof, but it looks more like a financial arrangement than an inspiring relationship.”
He then added painfully:
“And in my generation, no one even talks about having a relationship. Even women don’t want commitment and explicitly tell you they prefer one-night stands.”
What a miserable generation, I thought to myself. They have access to all the luxuries in the world — but they don’t have true love.
“If a man would give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned,” wrote the poet of the Song of Songs about how money can never buy love — and he was so right.
After the young man from Mexico poured his heart out to us, he asked, “So what’s your secret?”
I looked at him and waited for an answer that would resonate with him, given his age and level of inner maturity — a maturity reflected in his eyes. I knew it was not the time to talk about connections from previous reincarnations, nor about the love for God that unites us, or about our shared life mission. He wasn’t ready for answers of that kind, so I said to him in Spanish:
“Spiritual attraction!”
I knew he would raise an eyebrow in puzzlement, so I continued and explained:
“Most people are unaware that their true self is the spirit. So, when they usually consider a partner, it’s done because of physical attraction, emotions, or even intellectual considerations. All these reflect only the material side of a person, and therefore, a relationship that starts from this place has an expiration date. It simply doesn’t last, and then comes the painful separation, immediately followed by the renewed hope of finding someone else with whom, this time, it will be forever.”
Truthfully, the young man was stunned by the answer I gave because he had never heard the term “spiritual attraction” before.
But he’s not the only one.
Ever since Adam and Eve ate from the Tree of Knowledge, the serpent’s curse has rested upon most of humanity (by the way, the story of the Garden of Eden is not a historical account, but a code for understanding the downfall of humanity).
This is the curse of the “inner matrix,” in which people are disconnected from their spirit, from eternity, from God—and from all the blessings and joys that were supposed to be theirs according to the Plan of Creation—and instead, they are imprisoned and enslaved only to the material consciousness.
Is it any wonder, then, that they can’t grasp love that belongs to eternity?
The young man continued to ask questions about the spirit, and then I knew it was time to invite him to the course, LET MY SPIRIT GO.
“Come free your spirit! And by the way, lesson number nine is entirely dedicated to the marriage covenant.”
